Without the support of INQUEST, I really don't know how I would have got through this nightmare, and I know that I have to live my life without our Lloyd, I have gained some coping skills, that INQUEST has assisted me with, so thank you to the brilliant team at INQUEST. – Janet Butler, parents of Lloyd who died at Stechford Police Station, Birmingham in 2010
Before you can take on new challenges in your life it helps to work out what obstacles you face.
Think of the things that hold you back when you approach a new task. It might include things like:
- lack of money
- lack of skills
- fear and stress of doing new things
- lack of time
- lack of confidence
- lack of support
- lack of information.
All of these things are natural, and everyone experiences them at some point in their lives. Look at the tips below and see if they help.
Tips for dealing with obstacles
- look for a cheaper way of getting what you want
- ask your caseworker, family, friends or adviser to teach you the skills you need
- practise the skills on a regular basis
- join a class to learn the skills or look on the internet to find out more information
- draw up a list of steps that are quick and easy to take
- draw up a timetable of tasks
- plan small changes or tasks first to help build up your confidence
- talk through your plans with people you trust
- when you draw up your plan include people or organisations that can help
- talk to other people who have done similar things and find out how they did it
- talk to your caseworker, family, friends, work colleagues or people you trust about sources of information.
- check your local library for information.
Doing something new in life is easier if you plan how to do it. Think about:
- What steps are involved.
- Who can help you.
- How long it is going to take.
